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What I Wish I Knew My First Year of College

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Against all odds, I survived college. I graduated this past May with a BA in psychology, a minor in creative writing, a box of trinkets, and a lot of memories. Freshmen year was the start of an incredible journey that led me to friends I never knew I needed in my life, some useful useless information I’d need in my life, and learning some things about myself that changed my life. Mushy and cliche as it sounds, as I watch my younger friends get ready to go back to school, part of me wishes I was too. A bigger part of me is happy that I don’t have to because I’m done with the mass of assignments and 8am classes. But there is a part, albeit small, that wishes I had one more year.

So here are some things I wish I knew my freshman year and some authentic picture and kinda grainy pictures of me as a baby—I mean, a freshman. Continue reading “What I Wish I Knew My First Year of College”

What to Read

Seven Books, One Month, A Review

 

photo.jpegIf you’ve checked my blog in the last month, you may have noticed that my ‘Currently Reading’ section has been changing pretty frequently. Ever since graduating and coming home with all this free time, I’ve been reading like crazy. The last four years, I haven’t had the chance to sit down and read the way I did when I was in high school or even when I was on break. Now that I’m done with school, I haven’t been able to stop reading. I think it might be partly due to catching up with the books that I had piled up and mostly due to procrastinating my own writing. Whatever the reason, I’ve loved the lifestyle change. So, simply, here are seven books and what I thought about them. Continue reading “Seven Books, One Month, A Review”

Holidays

Summer Birthday Guide

Today is my mom’s birthday. It’s a milestone birthday so I wanted to do something special over the weekend to celebrate it. Every year, I ask what my mom wants for her birthday or what she wants to do. Every year, she always says nothing or anything or whatever everyone else wants to do. Every year, I’m staring up at my ceiling, wondering what I should get her as a gift and where I should take her for dinner. While scouring the internet for birthday gifts and laying awake a night trying to figure out where to go, I decided to make a guide for celebrating birthdays this summer, if not to help someone else, then to help myself next year. Read on to see my choices of gifts, cakes, and adventures that would make any birthday a day to be remembered. Continue reading “Summer Birthday Guide”

about me · Life Update

Being Young and a Dreamer

Screen Shot 2017-05-22 at 3.05.45 PMWhen I daydream about where I want to go in life, it starts with my writing. My first dream is that I want to publish a book. I want to publish a book and see my name in print and walk into Barnes and Nobel and see my book on the shelf. I want to feel pride and relief that I actually did it. I want my book to make it to the New York Times best-selling list and I want to save the little blurb about it. I want to go on Ellen or maybe The Talk and I want the studio audience to go home with a copy. I want my book to turn into a movie and I want to help write it and I want to spend the summer in Hollywood working on its set. Then I want to publish another book, then I want to write another one and publish that too. I want to finish the forty-plus books that are in my writing queue. I want to write at least one book that takes place in every state. I want to inspire fan fiction.

And then people say, “That’s nice, but what’s your backup plan?” Or “That’s really cool, what are you doing until then?” And I tell them, I’m working towards that; I’m writing every day. I’m editing every day. I’m working on my books every day.

The choice that I made for my post-grad life draws a lot of questions. I’ve been convinced by the adults in my life that it would be better if I went to graduate school, if I went and got my masters, my Ph.D., focused on publishing a book after I got a permanent job with a good pay and my own apartment. I’ve been told that it’s just “two more years; two more years is nothing.”

But two more years of school is something. Two more years is time that I can’t focus on new work, it’s time I can’t edit, it’s time I can’t send out query letters or work with my editor. Every time someone tries to convince me that it would be in my best interest to go get my masters, go get a P.A. degree, I wonder why my dream isn’t enough.

Of course, my dream is enough for me, but for everyone else, it’s a hobby and a side job. It’s something I should be doing in between coursework while pursuing something more reasonable.

Once upon a time, my dream was to have a Ph.D. in psychology. I was going to move to Boston and be a clinical psychologist and work on the psych ward at Mass Gen. If that were still my dream, I’d probably have fewer people trying to steer me onto a different career path.

No one questions those who dream of being doctors and lawyers and psychologists. They aren’t asked what to do in the mean time or what their backup plan is. But they’re still dreamers. I wonder how the world would be different if we supported those who don’t choose practicality. If we didn’t relegate them down to hobbies and side jobs. The world needs doctors and lawyers and psychologists. But the world also needs storytellers and creators and dreamers.

Being young and a dreamer can be difficult, but I wouldn’t want to be anything else.

Holidays · lifestyle

(Mother’s Day) Brunch is Always a Good Idea

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I love brunch and I love planning things and I love my mom. What better way to put all of them to use than a Mother’s Day brunch? Last year, my family came over to celebrate. My cousins and I were running the show from behind the scenes: one taking orders, one running food, and the other acting as my sous chef in the kitchen. And once all the food was out and the drinks were poured, we all sat on our back deck eating, drinking, and laughing. These are my plans for a perfect Mother’s Day brunch because as they say, “brunch is always a good idea.”

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